Online Infidelity: A New Challenge For The Frum Community

Posted on: December 8th, 2010

Online infidelity may be the next upcoming challenge facing the Orthodox world. In the last 12 months, I have seen 11 Orthodox couples where one spouse has reported an online affair that has caused serious distress in their marriage. I now believe that an epidemic of online infidelity may be causing the breakup of countless Jewish marriages.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 12/09/10

Posted on: December 8th, 2010

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Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 12/02/10

Posted on: December 1st, 2010

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Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 11/25/10

Posted on: November 24th, 2010

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Never Beyond Reach

Posted on: November 24th, 2010

Dear Rabbi Schonbuch, My husband drinks every night. He starts with a few glasses of wine with dinner and always ends with whisky. Some nights it's just one or two large ones and other nights it can be half a bottle. I know that we believe that drinking at a Farbrengen or a Kiddush is allowed, but when does it begin to become a problem?

Are You A Good Parent?

Posted on: November 24th, 2010

Psychologists study ways to help people find authentic happiness. Researchers report that using one's strengths allows for greater creativity, productivity and excellence. While theses are all the ingredients for professional and career success, they have also been found to work in people's personal lives as well. Utilizing personal strengths yields greater happiness and feelings of well being.

Communicating Effectively (Part V)

Posted on: November 17th, 2010

Having parented a struggling adolescent for several years, Yael was expecting that life would be different for her now twenty-year old son. She was, and still is, an excellent student, diligently applying the tools she has been gaining in our coaching sessions. Harmony and peace has returned to her home, and the relationship (with her son) she was working on mending has become a reality. Admittedly, she attributes the restored relationship to a parenting methodology she has undertaken -- the love-tough approach.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 11/18/10

Posted on: November 17th, 2010

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Connect To Love

Posted on: November 17th, 2010

Dear Gary, I'm very upset with the younger generation today and the way they treat their marriages. I've been married for 56 years and admit that it hasn't always been easy. If I thought about getting divorced each time my husband upset or annoyed me, we wouldn't have gotten past the week of sheva brachos. It seems to me that today’s newlyweds don't want to make any sacrifices and think only of themselves. My grandson, the father of two beautiful young children, is getting divorced. He says its because he didn't make his wife happy enough and spent too much time working at his new job. This is outrageous. Do you think this younger generation is too selfish?

When Should We Go For Marriage Counseling?

Posted on: November 11th, 2010

Dear Rabbi Schonbuch, My husband and I are having trouble in our marriage. We tend to fight about the same issues every day and he's very emotionally distant. At what point should I consider seeing a marriage therapist?

Winning The Blame Game; Losing The War: Teaching Responsibility to Our Children

Posted on: November 11th, 2010

Schools have long been grading students on responsibility. But in recent years, teachers report that marks in responsibility have been plummeting. This is an alarming phenomenon - but it is not a coincidence. Responsibility is becoming a rare virtue.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 11/11/10

Posted on: November 11th, 2010

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Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 11/04/10

Posted on: November 4th, 2010

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How To Talk With Our Children About Personal Safety

Posted on: October 27th, 2010

This is a handy little jingle for parents to keep in mind, but even though it's short, my rhyme is not for little children. In order to adequately prepare our children we must first be aware of the red flags ourselves. Then we need to schedule an "annual check-up" with our children and clearly and calmly bring up the subject of personal safety.

Reframing (continued from October 15, 2010)

Posted on: October 27th, 2010

In this series we have covered many of the major ways to understand what makes a teenager tick. Now it's time to put all the pieces together and work towards restarting the relationship between you and your teenager.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 10/28/10

Posted on: October 27th, 2010

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Connect To Love

Posted on: October 27th, 2010

Question: A few years ago I was forced to go back to work when my husband lost his job. Baruch Hashem I have become very successful in my field, one that is largely male. While my husband is now working as well, it has become clear that my job is the priority - I make almost triple his salary and there's potential for much more. I never intended to be away from my kids, but am not upset that I had to go to work.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 10/21/10

Posted on: October 20th, 2010

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Celebrating Jen

Posted on: October 20th, 2010

What a beautiful woman. Really - in every sense of the word. She was beautiful in appearance, beautiful in conduct, beautiful in spirits and wow, what a beautiful mother, wife and daughter.

Chronicles Of Crises In Our Communities – 10/14/10

Posted on: October 14th, 2010

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