Family

Different communities and families have different norms when it comes to the role of parents in the dating process. There is no one size fits all and no one golden rule.

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Her feelings of worthlessness and depression likely stem from feeling like she is diminished and a shadow of her former self.

While a shared background might make things easier, it doesn’t mean that it is the only way.

When asked about concerns they have about returning home after their year, one of the most popular responses is something like, “I am dreading all the questions about my skirts and sleeve length."

If you want to be a leader, you need to make connections. People need to see you as an individual with imperfections and vulnerabilities.

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You should, as a couple, forge out “we” time where you do things together such as discuss books, art, Torah topics, or whatever you both share interest in.

We all have small parts of us that don’t showcase us in the best light. Bits and pieces that when highlighted detract from our positive qualities.

Both instilling motivation and creating a safe space are integral parts of learning, helping students feel that they both want to learn and that the conditions are right for learning.

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We can’t possibly know the mind of Hashem. We can’t even begin to speculate as to what was Hashem’s purpose in taking your friend’s husband at this time.

You are responsible for yourself, your actions, and your reactions. Your behavior before the date, during the date, and after the date are under your control.

What doctors and teachers call hyperactivity can also be called exuberance.

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In shidduchim, the potential for rejection exists for everyone. Those we want to date, those we ask to date, and those we are dating, all have the opportunity to say “no” should they choose to.

You must share in a tone that demonstrates derech eretz to your parents that their behavior in meddling with raising your children is not helpful and is inappropriate.

If you have just moved or are entering a new community, the section on representing yourself as an individual can shed light on social interactions.

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Maybe you can give me some words of nechama as I am frum and I know Hashem does everything for the good.

You envision someone like you at this stage of your life, and your parents likely hoped for someone who shares their original goals for you.

We need to remind ourselves constantly why we are taking the precautions we are taking. Remembering the reason gives us the strength to move forward.

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While your educational ideas sound interesting, I am not sure how a school would be able to implement this kind of curriculum.

To me, your question cannot be answered until we address your tone. Until then, this is less about your inability to see eye to eye with your parents than about your struggle to communicate properly with one another.

What can we do to raise confident daughters – daughters who are proud of who they are and not what they look like?

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Perhaps you can call a family meeting and start with saying that although it is a privilege for you to be able to take care of your parents, things are becoming more difficult and you feel you need more help.

You believe you are stuck because no one new seems to exist in the comfortable/uncomfortable group you belong to. To remain as you are will then likely not yield new and productive results. It’s time to switch things up.

Part of being productive is knowing what to do with all the ideas floating around your head and world.