Close your eyes, breathe in deeply, now exhale slowly… That was easy, wasn’t it? Not for everyone…
Posted on: May 23rd, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Many go about the business of living frum, observant lives, but they are only going through the motions.
Posted on: May 9th, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Lately I have been hearing quiet grumblings from people who admit that they regret not encouraging their sons to get a post-high school education after a year or two of learning.
Posted on: April 11th, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
While it would seem from his question that he is being chuzpadik and dismissive, I wonder if its possible, if just maybe, he is a struggling, confused neshama who actually wants to come back to the fold.
Posted on: March 28th, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
A young lady in her early 20’s, “Sarah” was redt to “Shlomie” a boy from her home town who learned in an out-of-town yeshiva. The families know each other well, which in today’s shidduch scene is a big plus – since it was therefore unlikely the kids would “fall in” due to misinformation and misinterpretations.
Posted on: March 14th, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
I came to the conclusion a long time ago that I have to do what is right for me – as long as it’s “ halachically kosher” and doesn’t negatively impact on others – and not worry too much about what others think.
Posted on: February 28th, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
They say the road to hell is paved with good intentions, and that is precisely what almost always happens in situations where a reference knew someone had serious but hidden emotional issues, but did not reveal the information to the person making inquiries.
Posted on: February 14th, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Time never stood still for anyone – why would I be the exception? In my hubris, I thought that somehow I would live forever – and I suspect we all have secretly felt that way, even though we know it’s a fantasy.
Posted on: January 31st, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
One can argue that forgetting something on a regular basis is a sign of advancing age and it’s time to for a neurological evaluation, but based on the number of young people who need to replace a lost smart phone (too bad it’s not smart enough to warn its owner that that they have become separated – or is there an app for that too?), I safely can say that losing “stuff” cuts across the generations.
Posted on: January 17th, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
For quite a few days in late December, Toronto was transformed into a breathtaking – literally and figuratively – frigid winter wonderland, where every twig, leaf, car door, and outdoor wire and cable was totally encased in ice. When the sun shone the landscape was blindingly brilliant as if billions of diamonds had been glued to everything the eye could see.
Posted on: January 6th, 2014Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Outside is a winter-white wonderland replete with dazzling trees, wires, and sidewalks seemingly wrapped in glittery silver foil. It’s quite lovely to look at, which is about all I can do since I’m stuck indoors. Icicle-laden tree branches are bent and hunch-backed by the frozen heaviness of their popsicle-like burden, and the voices squawking from the battery-operated transistor radio I am listening to are warning people not to go out since walkways and roads are extremely slippery, and there is real danger from falling trees.
Posted on: December 20th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
The necessity of speaking up when you “have a hunch” applies even more when it comes to shidduchim. One little girl did just that – she said something – and I was fortunate enough to be in town for the very joyful, lively wedding that resulted from her speaking up.
Posted on: December 6th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Let me begin by congratulating my dear machatunim, Soraya and Jay Nimaroff, on being the recipients of the Community Service Award at the Sderot Hesder Institutions 18th annual anniversary dinner.
Posted on: November 22nd, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
The Hebrew month of Kislev has a special, albeit bittersweet, significance in my family, as it is the month my father was born and passed away.
Posted on: November 8th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
But even though their medical situations were similar, how they mentally dealt with their new status quo was often as different as night and day.
Posted on: October 25th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
How confusing it was growing up with conflicting messages. On the one hand, we were told, even admonished, to eat everything on our generously piled up plates (it was a sin to waste food), yet we were made to feel like we were a lower form of human being if we were overweight.
Posted on: October 11th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
While in New York recently, I was invited to see a performance of "Waiting for Godot" – a multi-layered play on the human condition that I was introduced to in high school. What was fascinating and unique about this particular production was that this renowned play was being performed in Yiddish - with English and Russian subtitles beamed onto a screen for non-Yiddish speakers. (Staged by the New Yiddish Rep, at the Castillo Theatre, and directed by Moshe Yassur, it stars Shane Baker, David Mandelbaum, Rafael Goldwaser, Avi Hoffman and Nicholas Jenkins.)
Posted on: September 25th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Now and then my Bubby would open up about what she went through in the camps, of what she witnessed... From time to time she would talk about her baby sisters - twins - and how she would sew them identical dresses and braid their hair the same way challenging everyone to guess who was who.
Posted on: September 13th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Our community has a very different mindset - we live to have children. Each child is considered a bracha - a priceless commodity to cherish and nurture.
Posted on: August 30th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
I read an article recently that described the fascinating phenomenon of mainstream, well-educated, responsible men and women deciding not to have children. According to the article, these people have given the matter a great deal of thought and have come to the conclusion that parenting is not for them.
Posted on: August 16th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Now and then you read or hear of a tragedy – typically a car accident - where those involved are suffering from life-threatening injuries or unfortunately have lost their lives. Frequently, in the initial reports, the victims remain nameless “pending notification of next of kin.”
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