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Posted on: October 11th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
While in New York recently, I was invited to see a performance of "Waiting for Godot" – a multi-layered play on the human condition that I was introduced to in high school. What was fascinating and unique about this particular production was that this renowned play was being performed in Yiddish - with English and Russian subtitles beamed onto a screen for non-Yiddish speakers. (Staged by the New Yiddish Rep, at the Castillo Theatre, and directed by Moshe Yassur, it stars Shane Baker, David Mandelbaum, Rafael Goldwaser, Avi Hoffman and Nicholas Jenkins.)
Posted on: September 25th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Now and then my Bubby would open up about what she went through in the camps, of what she witnessed... From time to time she would talk about her baby sisters - twins - and how she would sew them identical dresses and braid their hair the same way challenging everyone to guess who was who.
Posted on: September 13th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Our community has a very different mindset - we live to have children. Each child is considered a bracha - a priceless commodity to cherish and nurture.
Posted on: August 30th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
I read an article recently that described the fascinating phenomenon of mainstream, well-educated, responsible men and women deciding not to have children. According to the article, these people have given the matter a great deal of thought and have come to the conclusion that parenting is not for them.
Posted on: August 16th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Now and then you read or hear of a tragedy – typically a car accident - where those involved are suffering from life-threatening injuries or unfortunately have lost their lives. Frequently, in the initial reports, the victims remain nameless “pending notification of next of kin.”
Posted on: August 1st, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
A friend of mine, a young mother, related that her oldest child, now three, was starting pre-school in a few weeks. Her voice, full of pride, quickly took on a tone of annoyance as she described the “welcome package” she had received as a new parent. Amid the rules and regulations concerning drop off and pick up was a dress code for mothers/female caregivers who brought and took home the children. One of the “requirements” was wearing closed–toed shoes. Sandals were not allowed.
Posted on: July 18th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Think of how you feel when you pick up a baby and she starts crying and shrieking hysterically. You can't help but feel somewhat chagrined and inadequate.
Posted on: July 5th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
After my son Moshe got married in Israel several years ago, I decided to keep in more frequent touch with my cousin Ruzah. I would call her on a weekly basis (a good opportunity to practice the Ivrit I learned in day school), speaking to a woman who was of an older, wiser generation - rendering her more like a mother. Ruzah, like all my first cousins was indeed my parents’ age, married with children before I was born. Her experiences mirrored my father’s generation, although she really was from mine. Her mother and my father were siblings and my unknown grandparents were hers.
Posted on: June 21st, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
The 21 days of semi-mourning that is collectively referred to as the Three Weeks, culminating with the fast day of Tisha b’Av - the ultimate day of mourning in the Jewish calendar - begins in a few short days. During this period of time Jews reflect on the myriad of tragedies that have befallen us since the destruction of the Holy Temple and our subsequent exile.
Posted on: June 7th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
A popular topic of discussion in newspapers, magazines and talk shows revolves around the management of personal finances - or rather the lack of them. In most cases, dealing with overwhelming debt is the topic de jour. Seems many people are drowning in it. Spending more than they have has mired countless consumers into a financial quicksand with maxed out credit cards and collection agencies knocking on the door. Speaking of doors, many face eviction and the loss of their home.
Posted on: May 24th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
With the semi-mourning period of Sefira behind us, and the festival of Shavuot as well (as evidenced by the tightness of our clothing due to over-indulging in irresistible versions of cheesecake that is an integral component of celebrating our receipt of the Torah), our community can look forward to participating in joyous engagement parties and weddings.
Posted on: May 10th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
One of the subjects I was taught as a young child in school was Tefillah. Since we spoke only Ivrit during our Limudei Kodesh and secular Hebrew studies - literature, creative writing and Jewish history - we pretty much understood the words we were davening.
Posted on: April 26th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
Shortly before Pesach, I received a rather agitated call from a long time reader of The Jewish Press who pleaded with me to write a column regarding what she insisted was the unwarranted high cost of Pesach food – in particular shmurah matzah – and how hard it was for young families to pay what she felt were over-inflated prices in order to keep strictly kosher.
Posted on: April 11th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
The price of deliberate obliviousness is very high - emotionally, physically, socially, and financially.
Posted on: March 29th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
How is it possible that a person of seemingly normal intelligence (nowhere does it say he is simple) not have the ability to ask a question - to not react and enquire as to the why of the hustle and bustle around him?
Posted on: March 15th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
It was one of those cold, rain-soaked evenings - the kind that make you look forward to a hot drink, a good book and a soft couch to curl up on. With those happy thoughts in mind, I proceeded to cross to the other side of the street.
Posted on: February 28th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
The other day I was shopping at a large supermarket and happened to go down the frozen foods aisle, past the endless freezers containing every imaginable flavor, shape and size of ice cream. I rarely buy. Rather I am like a tourist in a museum – gawking at wondrous objects that I know I can’t take home with me.
Posted on: February 14th, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
He stood his ground despite the intense pressure to do what everyone else was doing. His integrity was more important to him than "fitting in."
Posted on: February 1st, 2013Sections → Magazine → On Our Own/Cheryl Kupfer
There is a wise Yiddish saying that translates into this observation: "Yichus (illustrious ancestors) is like potatoes - they are both under the ground."
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