Dear Dr. Yael
How many potential shidduchim are not coming about because we, the mothers, are not allowing them to go through?
Forming Relationships Step By Step
I so desperately want to have a loving relationship with my stepsons.
A Mix Of Letters
Isn't there anyone making a simcha who understands that loud music can cause hearing loss?
Things To Know Before A First Date*
Some other red flags: when a person spontaneously and angrily talks about exes on dates, reschedules a date more than once without an emergency situation, or talks about engagement or marriage right away.
Handwriting: What’s The Point?
Children develop at different rates – they say their first words, take their first steps, toilet train, read their first word, and lose their first tooth at different times.
I Don’t Like My Mother
My mother thinks of herself as a superior person, has very little feelings for other people, and probably suffers from a deep lack of self-esteem.
Liar, Liar Pants On Fire: Why Do People Lie?
Once you understand why you are lying, you might be better able to tell the truth.
How Memory And Learning Work Together
This core idea of memory is very difficult to fully comprehend; however, it is essential.
Dealing With An Abusive Wife
Sometimes the most powerful countermove one can make when a person is screaming is to calmly say that her behavior is not helpful and then continue interacting with the rest of the family while ignoring the enraged person.
A Wise Marital Therapist
There are many people today with very little training who put out shingles and proclaim themselves to be marital coaches, shalom bayis helpers, advisers etc.
Separate, But Not Equal
When one marries someone with children, all family members must accept them.
Making Our Children Feel Loved
Do you love your children? Of course, who doesn’t? Maybe I should rephrase the question: Do your children feel that you love them?
Not The Top Of The Class: Why American Schools Are Mediocre
“Without a high school diploma, you couldn’t work as a garbage collector in New York City; you couldn’t join the Air Force. Yet a quarter of our kids still walked out of high school and never came back.”
– Amanda Ridley
Being Treated Equally
My mother-in-law is totally devoted to her daughters and their children. Her sons’ children on the other hand are treated like second-class citizens.
Give and Get
Avromi often put other people’s interests before his own: he would not defend people whom he believed were guilty (even if they were willing to pay him a lot of money).
Chesed Begins At Home
How can I help my wife learn to say "no," and understand that her first priority must be her husband and family?
Is Marital Therapy A Mistake
It is important for a therapist to focus on a person's strengths as a way of overcoming his or her difficulties.
Nerds, Introverts And Bullies
Social disabilities occur at many levels, but experts identify three different areas of learning and behavior that are most common for children who struggle to create lasting social connections.
Summer Dilemma
I went to camp for many years. We cleaned our own bunks and did not have air conditioning.
Wholehearted Parenting
Brown argues that this wholehearted living must extend into our parenting.
In-Law Complications
"I would really love my mother-in-law ...if she weren't my mother-in-law."
The Meaning Of Time
Not enjoying saying no, I often succumbed to requests viewing them as demands I couldn't refuse.
Manners and Menschlichkeit
This is an important one in raising a mentsch (and maybe even in marrying off a mentsch! listening skills are on the top of the list when I do shidduch coaching).
A Positive Outlook
It’s fair to say that we all know or have someone in our family who is divorced.
Dear Dr. Yael
I recently met a wonderful woman who writes poetry. With her permission, I am sharing a poem she wrote about time.