Dear Dr. Yael
Sometimes people feel that if someone accepts them then there is something wrong with that person.
Resumes For Beginners
Building up your self-confidence, your self-love, and your self-acceptance is paramount before you go on your first date.
Book Smart is not the (Only) Goal
Executive skills allow us to organize our behavior over time and override immediate demands in favor of longer-term goals.
Dear Dr. Yael
I find it interesting that some people, like you... look at it as a device that gives them more independence to age at home. To others it reminds them of the fact that they’re aging and are vulnerable.
Brain Freeze
Listen to yourself and the emotion that you feel when you talk about her and do your best to imagine your future together. Can you picture her as a strong and loving partner?
Dissecting Disagreement How to Have Difficult Conversations
If you feel that someone is misrepresenting your purpose or intent, use a contrasting statement.
Dear Dr. Yael
In my opinion, he is reckless and self righteous to think that this is how depression can be cured. Does he begin to understand that over 90% of suicides were with people who were suffering from depression?
Big Bash
Your best friend got married last year. She was tremendously blessed to find her zivug during such a difficult time. She likely understands this and has made peace with the small wedding she had or has planned for bigger celebrations in the future.
Who Likes Criticism?
See your blind spots. Before we resist the feedback, it’s important to recognize that perhaps maybe other people see things that we do not.
Dear Dr. Yael
Communicating will strengthen your relationship and bring you closer to each other if done correctly. Remember, stay positive, non confrontational, and use “I feel” messages so your husband doesn’t feel blamed at all.
Travel Ban
You don’t need to fly anywhere of course if you don’t want to. Perhaps, though, you can take a moment to reflect on your unwillingness to travel outside of your comfort zone.
Girls and Boys: Coping with Stress
While there are always exceptions, teenage girls often experience significantly more stress around appearances – what they look like and how they dress.
Dear Dr. Yael
You mentioned reluctance to give up baking because of the connection it has brought to your marriage. Maybe you can channel that passion for food into something that is healthier for both of you.
Fancy Shmancy
Your non-existent expectations for a home do not make her basic expectations unreasonable.
Picture Imperfect – A Group of Shadchanim Is Pushing to Get Rid of Photos...
While we are visual beings, and it is natural to want to see how the person looks, the problem is that when you see the picture before you meet the person, you create a single image of who the person is.
Stop Stopping Yourself
If you don’t believe in yourself, you may end up choosing to forgo positive experience simply because you don’t think you will succeed.
Dear Dr. Yael
Your praise should be realistic. Don’t say things that are obviously untrue as children can see through this and it will not feel good to them.
Total Sum
It can be hard to modify the picture that you had in your head when you originally thought about your future.
Parenting in the “Parsha”
Different communities and families have different norms when it comes to the role of parents in the dating process. There is no one size fits all and no one golden rule.
Dear Dr. Yael
Her feelings of worthlessness and depression likely stem from feeling like she is diminished and a shadow of her former self.
Defying Differences
While a shared background might make things easier, it doesn’t mean that it is the only way.
So Your Daughter Is Home From Seminary… Now What?
When asked about concerns they have about returning home after their year, one of the most popular responses is something like, “I am dreading all the questions about my skirts and sleeve length."
The It Factor
If you want to be a leader, you need to make connections. People need to see you as an individual with imperfections and vulnerabilities.