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Singles In Crisis – A Reader’s Thoughts


Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis

Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis

I would like to offer a little advice to shadchanim. I know there are many good shadchanim out there, but you need run into only one who is abrasive and hurtful to make you feel injured forever. So while I appreciate the efforts of the many good people who are volunteer or professional shadchanim, I ask that before speaking, thought should be given to avoid injuring already fractured hearts.

On behalf of all the singles I know I would like to thank you, Rebbetzin, for having devoted so much time to our dilemma. I would only ask that you publish my letter so that people might be more sensitive to our needs.

May Hashem bless you in your work. I know you have made many shidduchim. I have attended a number of your classes and you always spoke to me with love and infused me with faith and hope.

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2 Responses to “Singles In Crisis – A Reader’s Thoughts”

  1. No Dilemma says:

    The constant bias in your column makes Fox News look fair. You highlight every last message from singles “desperate,” “hurting,” and “in pain” but refuse to even recognize the existence of the many of us who are very happy being single. Your writing actively promotes prejudice and discrimination because it conveys the message that to be single is to be unfortunate. For so many of us who are single by choice, that is anything but the case. We have lots of friends, both married and single, freedom to volunteer in our communities, and wonderful activities that keep us not just busy but happy. Do you realize the stereotype you’re promoting that all of us are unhappy with our lives revolving around meeting a mate demeans every one of us. Stop the generalizations. At 50, I haven’t once heard the pounding of a so-called “biological clock.” Our happiness is not a pretense because we chose this life. Many of us get together as a group for holidays and lately, a lot of our conversation has revolved around how fed up we are with the constant imposition of a cookie cutter life that refuses to recognize the diversity of the 21st century.

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