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The War and the Grief: A Response to Parents Circle

Our daughter Malki did not die because of the “occupation” or a disagreement on narratives. She was murdered for being Jewish by unrepentant Palestinian terrorists who declare proudly that they meant it and are glad they did it.
Aftermath of the Sbarro Pizzeria homicide bombing, August 9, 2001.  Fifteen people were murdered, including the authors' 15 year old daughter, Malki. More than 120 were injured.

Aftermath of the Sbarro Pizzeria homicide bombing, August 9, 2001. Fifteen people were murdered, including the authors' 15 year old daughter, Malki. More than 120 were injured.
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Robi Damelin of Parents Circle, a terror victim organization, cries out for sanity and the curbing of what she refers to as the repeated call for vengeance “Break the cycle, we beg of you” (Times of Israel, June 24, 2014).

She asks for more reconciliation, more respect, less hatred and greater understanding of what prisoners mean to the Palestinians. She calls for human rights, a life of dignity and safety for all, and freedom from violence.

Her passion is tangible as she begs for support of an organization bringing together the families of terror victims from among Palestinians and Israelis who have “chosen a path to reconciliation.”

Can you be a caring person and still oppose what Parents Circle represents?

Yes, and a year ago we expressed our sense of the divergence between their rhetoric and reality in “Behind the facade at Parents Circle, messages that are deeply disturbing to bereaved families.

We noted than, and repeat now, that Damelin’s call appears to be addressed to Israelis alone. Her “cycle” is a singularly Israeli responsibility – the Palestinian Arab and Israeli Jewish members of Parents Circle are united in endorsing Palestinian victimhood and telling Israelis that the conflict is our fault. The Palestinians were left out when Robi Damelin wrote: “Israel is fast becoming the pariah of the world… we are losing our moral fiber.” In her worldview, the moral burden is entirely on one side.

No Israeli needs to be reminded of where our collective concerns are right now: three boys, snatched by unknown people pursuing a malevolent strategy. For decades, Palestinians have turned hostage-takers and the murderers of Israeli civilians into heroes and legends. The demand of the Palestinian political leadership, echoed in Robi Damelin’s cry, is that the terrorists now in prison ought to be walking free. She and they improbably suggest this is how peace is made.

Then there’s the fact that the Parents Circle piece fails to mention terror even once. It is simply not on their agenda but since terrorism is central to the bereavement of so many Israeli families, its absence is worth noting.

In stark contrast, the Israeli reality, hammered home by the empty beds in three ordinary Israeli homes, is that terrorists are very much the problem.

We fully realize that stopping them by force will not in itself bring the reconciliation which Parents Circle says it seeks. But not stopping terrorists means we may not be around when reconciliation comes — if it comes. Nor will our children.

Israelis talk about peace a great deal, and mean it when they say they are ready for painful compromise if it brings peace. Yet at Parents Circle they say something quite different about us when they address non-Israelis.

It’s a core Parents Circle message, as we noted last July, that “the good work of Parents Circle constitutes an alternative to hatred and revenge.”

That phrase occurs repeatedly in their documents. We now understand that the hatred and revenge, for which Parents Circle offer “an alternative,” are what they tell the world the rest of us Israelis feel.

Parents Circle’s very generous financial supporters, including the US and a number of European governments, are told they are funding an alternative to ‘hateful’, ‘vengeful’ viewpoints of bereaved families like mine.

It’s a portrayal we find deeply repugnant. It is also quite untrue.

We wonder whether the Parents Circle people hold any views about the moral fiber of any party other than Israel in the blood-soaked Middle East. And when Damelin describes Israel as “fast becoming the pariah of the world,” does she have an opinion about what the Gazans are fast becoming when they spend their scarce resources to train their own pre-teen children in the art of throwing hand-grenades and carrying out knifings?

About the Author: Frimet and Arnold Roth began writing and speaking publicly soon after the murder of their fifteen year-old daughter Malki Z"L in the Jerusalem Sbarro massacre, August 9, 2001 (Chaf Av, 5761). They have both been, and are, frequently interviewed for radio, television and the print media, including CNN, BBC, New York Times, Washington Post, Al-Jazeera, and others. Their blog This Ongoing War deals with the under-appreciated price of living in a society afflicted by terrorism which, they contend, means the entire world. Frimet is a native of Queens, NY while her husband was born and raised in Melbourne, Australia. They brought their family to settle in Jerusalem in 1988. They co-founded the Malki Foundation in 2001 and are deeply involved in its work as volunteers. They can be reached at thisoingoingwar@gmail.com .


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2 Responses to “The War and the Grief: A Response to Parents Circle”

  1. Lesley Giess says:

    my sadness goes out to you jesus will deal with them that murderd your daughter she as gone to jesus now i send you love and prayers for you

  2. Israel has been invaded by J street

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