Latest update: January 14th, 2013
“When you are inexperienced and new to Yiddishkeit you figure, what do I have to lose? I think it’s called chutzpah!” With the honesty and good natured candor that have made her a much sought after lecturer across the Jewish spectrum, African-American convert Ahuvah Gray, recounts the remarkable story of her personal encounter with Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, z”tl.
Among Ahuvah’s dearest friends in Bayit Vegan are Rabbi Laibl and Rebbetzin Chaya Heyman and it was to the rebbetzin that she turned one day, fourteen years ago with an unusual request. “I told her that I wanted to get a bracha for a shidduch from Rav Elyashiv. Sensing the urgency of the request the Rebbetzin agreed to call the Rav’s daughter, Rebbetzin Leah Auerbach. Within ten minutes she had arranged for a private meeting with Rav Elyashiv for that Erev Shabbos.”
The awe in her voice is palpable as Ahuvah describes the remarkable scene that unfolded that fateful day. “It was Chol Hamoed and there were four of us in the room in Meah Shearim, myself, a friend visiting from Los Angeles who was fluent in Hebrew, Rebbetzin Auerbach and the Rav.”
While immersed in his studies Rav Elyashiv began to ask Ahuvah questions, in Hebrew. Her friend acted as a translator. Rav Elyashiv did not look up during the entire ten-minute question and answer session. He asked where she lived and how long had she lived in Bayit Vegan. He asked who her rav was. When she answered Rabbi Laibl Heyman, he smiled. He asked where she davened.
Before they concluded Ahuvah requested that her friend ask the rav for a bracha for a shidduch. When she heard his answer a strange look came over her friend’s face and she hesitated before she told Ahuvah, “The rav said to tell you he can’t perform miracles.”
Ahuvah thought carefully before she spoke, conscious that she was in the presence of the Gadol Hador. “Please tell the Rav that I know he can’t perform miracles but Hashem can.”
Upon hearing these wise words Rav Elyashiv, “looked up at us for the first time and smiled and then gave me a beautiful bracha from his heart.” For Ahuvah Gray it “felt like my life had been transformed being in the presence of the holiest man I have ever had the privilege of meeting.”
For years Ahuvah had been asking Hashem, “Why didn’t I convert when I was younger? Certainly it would have been better in terms of making a shidduch. But now I was beginning to understand a bit better. I wasn’t ready for that kind of commitment when I was younger. I wasn’t ready to give up my career in corporate America and all of my life goals. My conversion happened exactly and precisely at the moment Hashem wanted it to happen, at a time in my life when I could be a mentor to young people.”
And mentor she has, all over the world. Audiences have been riveted by the inspiring story of how she overcame challenges, from family and colleagues, to achieve her goal – living as a Jew in the land of Israel.
In 2002 Ahuvah Gray was invited by Encounter, a kiruv organization in London, to participate in a conference where she was the keynote speaker along with HaRav Yisroel Meir Lau, Chief Rabbi of Israel; Rabbi Jonathan Sachs, Chief Rabbi of England and renowned authors and lecturers Rabbi Akiva Tatz and Rabbi Lawrence Kelemen.
That encounter, as well, as the remarkable story of her conversion, which involved Rav Yosef She’ar Yashuv Cohen, the chief rabbi of Haifa and Rav Bakshi Doron, the chief Sephardic Rabbi, are included in a documentary of her extraordinary life currently in production. The film traces her humble beginnings from a child of the rural south to her climb up the corporate ladder and ultimately her aliyah.
Over the years, many of the young women Ahuvah inspired became frequent visitors to her home during their year of study in Israel. Two girls who I originally met when I lectured at Hasmonean High School in London spent their days off from seminary studying with me from Rav Avrohom Chaim Feuer’s Tehillim Treasury. At the conclusion of the semester one of girls, Sally, wanted to start dating. Ahuvah suggested she ask Rav Elyashiv for a bracha.
Ahuvah marvels at the memory of that evening. “There were so many people waiting to see Rav Elyashiv, I assumed we were going to be there all night. So I settled into a chair and began saying Tehillim. Suddenly the door opened and a tall gentleman motioned for us to come directly in. All Sally could say was ‘Ahuvah, how did you do that?’” She later learned that Rebbetzin Auerbach, who visited her father daily, had notified him that Ahuvah would be arriving with a seminary student. Sally received her bracha and today lives with her husband and children in Israel.
Ahuvah merited accompanying hundreds of seminary girls to Rav Elyashiv’s home over a fourteen-year period and she is happy to report that they have all married. “They didn’t necessarily meet their bashert in Israel but would e-mail me once they became a kallah. I was always excited when I received the wedding invitation to their chuppah.” As for her bashert? “My time will come.”
It is this generosity of spirit that compelled Ahuvah to write her latest book, In Search of Hidden Treasures: Stories of Faith, Love, and Hashgacha Pratis. During her travels she has heard many miraculous stories at a variety of Shabbos tables throughout the world and she was eager to share these personal stories of triumph with a wider audience.
“The focus of this book is about the Chagim. As a convert, I feel a special connection to Rosh Hashanah. Just as the ancestors of the Jewish people were slaves in Egypt, my Jewish neshamah was enslaved in a non- Jewish body. On Rosh Hashanah I remember my personal exodus from slavery to freedom.”
Eighteen years ago Ahuvah Gray changed her name and her mazal when she arrived in Israel, blessed to be living among the Torah scholars and Sages in Jerusalem. Reflecting on the profound influence gedolim like Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, z”tl have had on her extraordinary journey she acknowledges, “As a result of observing their lives on a daily basis, I am a recipient of their Torah treasures that have awoken the seeds in my own neshamah and enhanced my path to Judaism.”
To learn more about the life and teachings of this devoted bas Yisrael please visit her website Ahuvahgray.com.Helen Zegerman Schwimmer
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