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Saying “Yes” to “No:” The Positive Power of Negative Thinking

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Think of a situation you want to do your best in related to work, social life, or any life goal.  Think of how you prepare for those situations.  Give yourself a score of 1 if the statement is not true of you, a 2 if the statement is sometimes true, and a 3 if the statement is often true of you.

 

 

Score (1-3)
I start out expecting the worst, even though I will probably be okay.
I worry about how things will turn out.
I carefully consider all possible outcomes.
I often worry that I won’t be able to carry through my intentions.
I spend lots of time imagining what could go wrong.
I try to picture how I could fix things if something went wrong.
I’m careful not to become overconfident in these situations.
I spend a lot of time planning when one of these situations is coming up.
I imagine how I would feel if things went well.
Considering what can go wrong helps me to prepare.
Total:

 

 

How to interpret your score:

 

1-10 10-20 20-30
You most probably fall into the category of a strategic optimist. You choose to believe that things will work out and do not focus on the negative outcomes that may occur. This helps you approach situations with confidence. You fall into neither the strategic optimist nor defensive pessimist category. Perhaps you use both strategies in different situations. On the other hand, you could employ neither strategy. You most probably fall into the category of defensive pessimist. Knowing what can go wrong and thinking about ways to fix those wrongs is a great way you deal with your anxiety surrounding important life goals.

 

About the Author: An acclaimed educator and education consultant, Mrs. Rifka Schonfeld has served the Jewish community for close to thirty years. She founded and directs the widely acclaimed educational program, SOS, servicing all grade levels in secular as well as Hebrew studies. A kriah and reading specialist, she has given dynamic workshops and has set up reading labs in many schools. In addition, she offers evaluations G.E.D. preparation,, social skills training and shidduch coaching, focusing on building self-esteem and self-awareness. She can be reached at 718-382-5437 or at rifkaschonfeld@verizon.net. Visit her on the web at rifkaschonfeldsos.com.


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