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During my recent trip to Poland I visited many cemeteries where great tzaddikim are buried.

Question: Will Rudy Giuliani's outspoken support for Israel sway your vote should he be the GOP presidential nominee in 2008?

As the years go by, and your spouse gets worse, and your life gets harder, well spouses often live with emotional paradoxes.

My five-part series on toxic people brought an avalanche of responses the likes of which I have not seen in my four years of writing this column.

Before Rosh Hashanah - Yom Kippur, it is customary to pray at the graves of one's parents.

For many, Polish Jewry is a misnomer; they (even those that come to visit) think that there is no longer any Jewish life, that it was all killed in the Holocaust. In the past year, I have been privileged to see just how much life there is in Poland.

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Question: Are the constant increases in yeshiva tuition justified? Can anything be done to alleviate the financial pressure on parents?

Rona came to town to visit family and friends. She looked forward to reconnecting after years of living so far away. She had made sure her chronically ill spouse was well cared for at home while she had a much-needed break from care giving.

A Day of Remembrance for the Jews of the Lodz Ghetto was recently held in the city.

When dealing with toxic personalities it is very important to remember some basic strategic rules that apply not only to them but can also apply to difficult people who are not toxic per se.

Question: Should second-generation Holocaust survivors (children of survivors)receive reparations from Germany?

This past week I had the honor of attending the Remembrance Day commemorations that took place in the Polish town of Piotrkow Trybunalski.

Dealing With Your Own Feelings

This year's International Summer Yiddish Language And Culture Seminar will take place August 13 - September 2.

Question: Should New York legalize medicinal marijuana?

In the past two weeks I have shared two letters from well spouses who were dealing with difficult machitanim. One pair of machitanim was coming to visit for the birth of a new grandchild but insisted that their daughter in law's mother not be present at the Shabbos meals, or they would not come. The other letter dealing with difficult machatanim was from a well spouse whose daughter is soon to be married. It seemed that this well spouse and her husband could do nothing that did not offend the groom's parents.

Last week, Mr. Sigmund Rolat visited his birthplace in Poland, the city of Czestochowa. As he does on every trip, he took time out to pay his respects to the local Jewish cemetery.

Last week I shared two letters from well spouses who are dealing with "machitanim" (the parents of your son or daughter in law) who appear to be toxic personalities.

Being a well spouse does not exempt you from life's experiences.

Question: Six years after 9/11, do you still fear another catastrophic attack here?

Last week I wrote about going to Nowy Zukowice, the town my grandfather came from.

Once upon a time there were two very close friends. One was a well spouse; one was not.

Since I started writing this column I have been inundated with questions from my readers about various shtetlach. Often the places mentioned are well-known cities and, possibly, places I have visited.

Question: How do you rate Michael Bloomberg's performance as mayor of New York?

In my years of writing The Person Behind The Chair my articles focused mainly on the emotional toll of caregiving for the spouse and family of the chronically ill.

One of the most frequently asked questions, regarding the situation in Poland, is about the local Polish attitude towards Jews and the Holocaust.

Question: What's on your Summer reading list?

A well spouse must be independent. There is often no partner to call on for help, physical or mental, and so s/he is left to make all the decisions, carry all the heavy things, make all plans and preparations on her own.

Whenever I go to Poland it is for a specific occasion. This last trip was to cover the laying of the foundation stone of the Museum of Jewish History, the Krakow Jewish Cultural Festival and the weddings and bar mitzvah of my friends in Warsaw.