Sexual abuse and sexual addiction are very common issues in our community. There is no need to remain silent on this issue because resources are available for those who want to heal, grow, and recover from these wounds. There are many others who are part of an ever-expanding 12-step fellowship program. We are no longer alone.
Over the last year of my life I have learned many lessons. I am learning that I am a good person and that I am loveable. I’ve learned that it’s okay not to be perfect, that mistakes are part of human nature. I am learning the difference between religion and spirituality. Religiosity was a place where I was able to hide, avoid and deny my pain.
Today I am no longer in hiding. I have developed a new relationship with My Higher Power that is based on love and acceptance. As a result, I have learned to treat myself with compassion instead of judgment.
My message is that you can heal from abuse and addiction with honesty, commitment, patience, acceptance, courage, and a lot of hard work. One of the slogans of the 12-step fellowship is “it works, if you work it, so work it, you’re worth it.” You are not alone and you are worth it. If you take the risk, you will find many other people, just like you and me, who are waiting to love you, care for you, accept you, relate to you, and help you on your road to recovery.
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