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October 22, 2016 / 20 Tishri, 5777

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Yom Kippur: Guide for the Perplexed

Monday, October 10th, 2016

1. Yom Kippur is a day of hope and optimism, in addition to a solemn day of soul-searching. Yom Kippur provides unique awareness of one’s own character and track record, as well as the opportunity to upgrade relationships with relatives, friends, associates and the community at-large.

2. Yom Kippur’s focus on forgiveness highlights humility, fallibility, soul-searching faith, compassion, thoughtfulness, being considerate, accepting responsibility and magnanimity.

3. The first human being, Adam, was created on the first day of Tishrei. Human-beings are accorded an opportunity to recreate themselves spiritually, each year, on Yom Kippur, the tenth day of Tishrei – an Acadian word for forgiveness and Genesis. Yom Kippur culminates ten days of genuine, heart-driven atonement/repentance, which begin on Rosh Hashanah. Ten has special significance in Judaism: God’s abbreviation is the tenth Hebrew letter (Yod – י); there are ten attributes of God – Divine perfection – which were highlighted during the Creation; the Ten Commandments; the Ten Plagues; there are ten reasons for blowing the Shofar; one is commanded to extend a 10% gift to God (tithe); Ten Martyrs (Jewish leaders) were tortured/murdered by the Roman Empire; there were ten generations between Adam and Noah and between Noah and Abraham; a ten-person-quorum (Minyan in Hebrew) is required for a collective Jewish prayer; etc.

4. Yom Kippur is observed on the tenth day of the Jewish month of Tishrei, whose astrological sign is Libra (♎). Libra symbolizes key themes of Yom Kippur: scales, justice, balance, truth, symmetry, sensitivity and optimism. Libra is ruled by the planet Venus (Noga, נגה, in Hebrew), which reflects divine light and love of the other person. (Noga is the name of my oldest granddaughter.)

5. Yom Kippur is a day of forgiveness for sins committed against God. It is customary to dedicate the eve of Yom Kippur to apologies for sins committed against fellow human-beings. However, apology or compensation are not sufficient if they do not elicit expressed forgiveness by the injured person.

6. Yom Kippur commemorates God’s covenant with the Jewish people and God’s forgiveness for the sin of the Golden Calf.

7. Yom Kippur and the Jubilee highlight liberty and subordination to God. The Jubilee – sanctifying each 50th year by proclaiming liberty, as inscribed on the Liberty Bell – is announced by blowing the shofar (a ritual ram’s horn) on Yom Kippur. The Jubilee liberates people physically and spiritually. The word “jubilee” (יובל) is a Hebrew synonym for shofar.

8. The Hebrew word Kippur, כיפור (atonement/repentance), is a derivative of the Biblical word Kaporet כפורת,, the cover of the Holy Ark in the Sanctuary, and Kopher, כופר, the cover of Noah’s Ark and the Holy Altar in the Temple. Yom Kippur resembles a spiritual cover (dome), which separates between the holy and the mundane, between spiritualism and materialism. The Kippah, כיפה (skullcap, Yarmulka’), which covers one’s head during prayers, reflects a spiritual dome.

9. Yom Kippur calls for repentance – Teshuvah, תשובה, in Hebrew. The root of Teshuvah is similar to the root of the Hebrew word for return, שובה – returning to positive values – and Shvitah שביתה – cessation (strike) of mundane thoughts, actions and eating. It is also similar to the root of Shabbat, שבת. Yom Kippur is also called Shabbat Shabbaton – the supreme Sabbath.

10. The Hebrew spelling of “fast” (צם/צום) – abstinence from food – reflects the substance of Yom Kippur. The Hebrew word for “fast” is the root of the Hebrew word for “reduction” and “shrinking” (צמצום) of one’s wrong-doing. It is also the root of the Hebrew words for “slave” (צמית) and “eternity” (צמיתות) – eternal enslavement to God, but not to human-beings. “Fast” is also the root of עצמי (being oneself),עצום (awesome), עצמה (power),עצמאות (independence).

More on Yom Kippur and other Jewish holidays: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/499393

Yoram Ettinger

Colorado Springs Synagogue to Relocate for Yom Kippur After Rosh Hashanah Fire

Saturday, October 8th, 2016

Chabad of Southern Colorado will hold its Yom Kippur services at the local Hotel Elegante in Colorado Springs, and are looking for alternative locations for their Sukkot and Simchat Torah, due to extensive fire damage to their synagogue.

Rabbi Moshe Liberow told KKTV that last Monday, just minutes before the congregation was to begin Rosh Hashanah services, they heard a loud bang and smelled smoke. While the congregation hastily made its way out of the building, Rabbi Liberow and a few of the congregants were able to get the Torah scrolls and prayer books out and took them to the rabbi’s home a few blocks away.

According to the KKTV report, the congregation may not be able to return to its building, as parts of the roof fell in and there’s extensive damage inside as well.

“Of course there’s been sadness, but sadness doesn’t bring growth, sadness doesn’t change things,” said Rabbi Liberow, stating: “We have to be optimistic, positive and, as our sages teach us, think good, be good, do good, increasing the goodness more and more.”

The Rabbi thanked the synagogue’s gentile neighbors for lending a hand in carrying damaged furniture and other articles out of the synagogue.


The Laws of Yom Kippur 5777

Friday, October 7th, 2016

Discussed in this article:

Preparing for Yom Kippur,
Erev Yom Kippur,
Halachot of the Fast,
Those who are exempt from fasting,
Yom Kippur,
End of the Fast

Preparing for Yom Kippur:
• It is a positive commandment from the Torah to do Teshuva to Hashem via confession (vidui) of the things we have done wrong and express regret. We should also take upon ourselves never to commit the sin again (דברים ל’, רמב”ם הל’ תשובה).
• For Mitzvot that are Ben Adam LeMakom, you have to confess to Hashem and not to detail your wrongdoings to other people (יומא פו:). For Mitzvot that are Ben Adam LeChavero, you must confess and apologize to the person you have wronged as well as confess and apologize to Hashem.
• If you have hurt your friend and your friend is unaware, for example, you spoke Lashon Hara about him, if the friend will not be hurt any further by knowing of the sin, you should apologize to him. If you think that your friend will be insulted and hurt by knowing about what you have done, do not ask for forgiveness (ממשמעות המג”א תר’ו, וכסברת ר’ ישראל סלנט).
• It is best to be stringent when it comes to Kashrut during Aseret Yemei Teshuva, for example, you should refrain from eating לחם של נכרי and חלב נכרי. This also goes for those who are more lenient about this on all other days of the year (ראבי”ה בשם ירושלמי שבת פ”ג).

Erev Yom Kippur:
• ‘Kapparot’ – Many of the big poskim have decided that it is best not to engage in the practice of Kapparot as there might be some suggestion of idolatry (רמב”ן ורשב”א בשו”ת ח”א שצה, וכן בשו”ע תרה). Although, it is our custom to do Kapparot on a chicken or on money. (It was Rashi’s custom to do Kapparot on a vegetable but we should not do it any differently from what we have customarily done. (רמ”א ומג”א תרה). One can use a credit card for Kapparot after making a donation with it, by circling it overhead as with money.
• Immersing in the Mikve (רא”ש יומא פ”ח כד בשם רס”ג) – We do not make a Bracha on the immersion (רא”ש שם, שלא כרס”ג).
• It is a positive commandment from the Torah to eat as much as you can on this day, especially delicacies (יומא פא, רא”ש שם, שו”ע תרד ומשנ”ב סק”א, ולא כרמב”ם). There are those who explain that the Torah is trying to make the fast easier for us with food (ב”ח תר”ד). And there are those who say that Torah is trying to make this day a little harder (ערוה”ש תר”ד).
• Mincha is davened early, before the Seudat Mafseket. During Mincha, Vidui is said during the Shmona Esrei, but not during Chazarat HaShatz. We do not say Avinu Malkeinu. (The Sephradim minhag is to say it)
• We light candles with a Bracha (…shel Yom HaKippurim) and we say Shehechiyanu, as it is written in the Machzor. In addition, you should light a yahrtzeit candle, so that Havdala is recited on a candle that has been lit all day.
• The father (and there are some whose custom it is also for the mother) bless the sons and daughters, as it is written in the Machzor. The children are supposed to kiss the parents’ hands following the Bracha (כתבי האר”י)
• Men should wrap themselves in their Tallit before sundown with a Bracha. There is a prevailing custom to wear a kittel so that we appear as the angels do and to remind us of the seriousness of this day (יום המיתה) and encourage us to do Teshuva.
• Tefillat Zaka is said before Kol Nidrei.

Halachot of the Fast:
• The fast starts at night (ויקרא כ”ג).
• On Yom Kippur, refrain from 5 things: eating and drinking, washing, anointing, wearing leather and marital relations between husband and wife (גמ’ יומא, פ”א ה”ד). According to the רא”ש they are all Rabbinical prohibitions, aside from eating and drinking, but according to the Rambam they are all prohibitions from the Torah.
• You are prohibited from doing any creative work (Melacha) on Yom Kippur (ויקרא כג)
• Women who have given birth, are pregnant, are weak or who have difficulty standing, are permitted to wash as they normally do – not for pleasure but for health and cleanliness reasons only (רמב”ם פ”ג ק”ב ערוה”ש תריג ס”ט).
• For those who have a hard time fasting, you are permitted to chew flavorless gum on Yom Kippur ((ממשמעות מג”א תקס’ז, וכה”ח החמיר שם אפילו בבליעת רוק .
• Avoid bathing and washing for pleasure (שו”ע תריג) but washing for cleanliness purposes is permitted (ראשונים, מג”א שם סק”א).
• Washing for cleanliness which is also pleasurable (for example, washing one’s dirty face with warm water) is prohibited (ממשמעות הרמ”א שם ס”ד).
• It is best not to put on deodorant on Yom Kippur. But, if it will disturb you or others greatly if you do not put on deodorant, you can use spray, but not a solid or cream deodorant.
• There are those who are stringent and say that it is best not to wear Crocs or Shoresh sandals because of their comfort level (ע”פ שער”ת תקנד סקי”א, ומשנ”ב שם סק”ה), however, according to the law, it is permissible and that is what the custom has become (ערוך השולחן שם ס”ה). • One should avoid touching one’s spouse at night, but it is permissible during the daytime. (ט”ז תרטו סק”א, ערוה”ש תרטו ס”א, ושלא כמג”א ומשנ”ב שהחמירו).
• If it is necessary, you can bathe your children on Yom Kippur, in tepid water. Take care not to use warm water. (ב”ח ומג”א תרטז סק”א ומשנ”ב שם).
• Kids who have not yet reached Bar or Bat Mitzvah age do not have to fast, but it is customary to have them fast a little for educational purposes (boys from the age of 12, and girls from the age of 11 are fasting) (ב”ח ומג”א ססק”ב).

Those who are exempt from fasting:
• A woman who is pregnant, no matter what stage of pregnancy she is in, who experiences severe headaches, is permitted to drink water in ‘shiurim’, and if that is not enough for her, she may drink a lot.
• A pregnant woman who experiences permanent contractions or whose water has broken, can drink without ‘shiurim’, even if she does not have a headache.
• A woman who has given birth 3 days prior to Yom Kippur, is prohibited from fasting (שו”ע תריז ס”ד)
• A woman who has given birth seven days prior to Yom Kippur, if she or her doctor feel she must eat, she is permitted to eat in ‘Shiurim’. If that is not enough, she is permitted to eat as she chooses. (שבת קכט. ושו”ע תריז ס”ד)
• A woman who is nursing who is worried that she will have less milk for the baby because of the fast, is permitted to drink in ‘Shiurim’ (תורת היולדת בשם חזו”א, עדות הגר”א נבנצל בשם הגרש”ז), There are poskim that say to be Machmir if the child is willing to drink formula (שו”ת אז נדברו ח”ט ט).
• A sick person who is in danger (חולה בסכנה) can eat and drink immediately, as well as someone whose classification of sick and in danger is doubted. This person does not have to go around searching for a Rav to ask whether or not he is permitted to eat. He should eat right away. (ויקרא יח, יומא פב, שו”ע תריח ס”ח)
• A sick person who is not in danger but feels that because of the fast, he might become in danger, is permitted to eat in ‘Shiurim’. (שו”ע תריח ס”א)
• Whoever eats and drinks in “Shiurim” should eat the volume of a matchbox every seven minutes (ערוה”ש תריח סי”ד), and should drink the amount of less than one cheek –full (שו”ע תריח ס”ז) on average a fifth of a disposable cup. It is preferable to eat foods that are sweet and healthy. In a case where eating /drinking in Shiurim every 7 minutes is not enough (שעת הדחק) one can do so every 4 minutes. If there is a need to drink more (drink only) one can drink in Shiurim in 1 minute intervals this is still better than drinking as usual. (כשיטת הרמב”ם שביה”ע פ”ב, וב”י תרי’ב- כרביעית הלוג)
• A sick person who is not in danger is permitted to take medication (pills) without water (אג”מ או”ח ח”ג צ”א).
• A sick person who is not in danger must fast normally. This includes people who experience regular headaches, general weakness, and other such symptoms. If in doubt, ask one of the doctors in the neighborhood.
• One who eats on Yom Kippur does not make Kiddush , but he should add Yaale VeYavo during benching (שו”ע תריח ס”י). One who eats on Yom Kippur is permitted to receive Aliyot LaTorah except for Maftir and Mincha (שו”ת רעק”א סכ”ד).

Yom Kippur
• In the morning, wash Negelvasser up to the knuckles (תו’ס יומא עז).
• Cohanim wash normally during Shacharit. If they have stayed clean, they do not have to wash hands again for Mussaf (ע”פ ערוה”ש תריג ס”ד בשם רמב”ם).
But, during Neila, Cohanim must wash their hands again as there was a break.
• We have been promised by Hashem that Yom Kippur atones for all those who have done Teshuva and that is why it is important to gather your strength and do Teshuva on Yom Kippur, even if it is difficult.
• One who feels that the fast is difficult for him and feels that he cannot continue to daven, should lie down and not break his fast, even if it means that he will not daven with a minyan or will not daven at all.
• A woman who sees that the fast is extremely difficult for her, her husband is exempt from davening with a Minyan and he must assist her so that she will lie down, fast, and not exert too much energy. The same goes for men who find it difficult to fast.

End of the Fast
• During Arvit following the fast, say “Ata Chonantanu”.
• Havdala is done on a candle that has been lit the entire holiday, with wine, without besamim (spices).
• Kiddush Levana should be said even though you haven’t yet eaten, as we are joyous that we have been atoned of our sins. אחרונים
• After the holiday is over, it is customary to do an action that is connected to constructing the Sukka, even if it is only a symbolic gesture (ערוה”ש, גר”א) and to eat with joy. (רמ”א תרכד ס”ה)
• Shacharit on the following day begins a few minutes earlier than usual. (משנ”ב תרכד סי”ד)

Rabbi Baruch Efrati

Short Subjects On Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur

Friday, September 23rd, 2016

Setting The Date

Rabi Pinchas and Rabi Chilkayahu said in the name of Rabi Shimon: “At this time of the year all the malachim gather before Hashem and ask Him, ‘Ribbono Shel Olam, when is Rosh Hashanah?’ Hashem replies, ‘Let us ask the earthly court and we will abide by their decision.’”

Rabi Hoshaya taught: If the earthly court decreed that today is Rosh Hashanah, Hashem commands the angels to call the heavenly court into session. He orders the prosecutor and the defendant to be ready to start trial. “For my children on earth have decreed that this day is Rosh Hashanah,” says Hashem.

If the earthly court has decided Rosh Hashanah should be postponed to the following day because of a leap year, then Hashem orders the heavenly court to postpone its sessions to the following day. Why? Because a “decree issued by Israel is considered as law by the God of Yaakov.”

Never Frighten The People

Chazal relate the following incident (Gemara Yoma): Once on Yom Kippur, the Kohen Gadol remained a long time in the Kodesh HaKedoshim praying fervently for the welfare of Bnei Yisrael.

The people became frightened thinking that something might have happened to him. His fellow priests asked him when he came out. “Why were you so long in the Kodesh HaKedoshim?”

“You should be glad,” he answered, “that I remained so long. I was davening that Bnei Yisrael should have a good year and the Beit HaMikdash should not be destroyed. Don’t you appreciate my efforts on your behalf?”

“While we appreciate your efforts on our behalf,” they replied, “we ask that you abide by the edict of Chazal who said that the Kohen Gadol should not take too long in the Kodesh HaKedoshim, because Bnei Yisrael might begin to worry that something might have happened to him. You must have consideration for their feelings.”

The Blowing Of The Shofar

Rabi Yitzchak said, “Why do we blow the shofar on Rosh Hashanah, once while standing and then again while seated? To confuse the Satan.”

Rabi Abuhu said, “Why do we blow shofar with the horn of a ram? Hashem announces: ‘Blow before me on the horn of a ram so that I may remember the sacrifice of Yitzchak, the son of Avraham, and I will consider it as if you performed their deed and it was you who were sacrificed.’”

Rabbi Sholom Klass

It’s My Opinion: Free Yom Kippur And Rosh Hashanah Tickets

Thursday, September 22nd, 2016

The Greater Miami Jewish Federation, The Rabbinical Association of Greater Miami, and many participating synagogues in Florida have joined forces to make sure that every Jew can be accommodated with seats for the upcoming Jewish holidays. It is a very special project.

Yom Kippur and Rosh Hashanah are traditionally times that synagogues raise funds by charging for seats in their sanctuaries. However, this expense can be a very difficult challenge for those who barely manage financially from month to month. Unfortunately, these are times where living from paycheck to paycheck is not an unusual occurrence.

Families who have just dealt with back-to-school clothing and expenses find themselves tapped out. Seniors who live on social security or pensions often do not have a dollar to spare. Just putting food on the table and a roof overhead is a daunting task for many of our brothers and sisters.

For some unaffiliated Jews, attendance at a synagogue on the “high holidays” is the last vestige of clinging to their faith. It should not be taken away.

Kol Yisrael arevim zeh ba-zeh – All Israel is responsible for one another. If you or someone you know can use this help go online at Jewish.Miami.org/highholidays, which includes a link to the list of participating synagogues, or phone 305-371-7328.

To accommodate everyone and to ensure security, advance registration is required.

See you in shul!

Shelley Benveniste

For Better or for Worse

Wednesday, September 18th, 2013

It’s time to move out of our homes and into our holy humble sukkahs. Now is the time when we renew our relationship with God, who has chosen us to form an inseparable eternal union – a marriage between the children of Yisrael and the Master of the Universe.

The Torah portion of Nitzavim, which is read just before the New Year, reveals to us that Hashem is our personal “husband,” for better or for worse. Rashi explains (Devarim 29:12) that we were presented with a covenant and a curse: “Since we are forever bound together, let Me teach you how to make Me happy.”

Nitzavim goes on to prophesize everything that has transpired during these thousands of years. This is highlighted by non-Jews gasping and stating, “Why has God caused this land to become desolate? Because they have forsaken God’s covenant.” Thus, on Rosh Hashanah we think of our past year’s sins. The sound of the shofar awakens our emotions. Then ten days of introspection and repentance bring on the great and awesome day of Kippur, of Atonement.

Consider: our God is perfect, and we are anything but. We may have been envious or lustful, or worshipped money, status or a host of other vices. Now we humbly return home to our Love. If we repent out of fear, our sins are forgiven. But if we repent because we truly love our Maker, he gives us an amazing reward – our sins become mitzvahs!

Hashem simply goes beyond the letter of the law in His love for us.

The Holy Ben Ish Chai points out that if you go beyond the four letters of the Hebrew word hadin (the judgment), you get to the Hebrew word sukkah. (The four Hebrew letters that come after the letters in hadin are the letters in the word sukkah). The sukkah is where we arrive after Yom Kippur, free of sins, under the wings of God’s Holy Presence.

Note that the first time sukkah is mentioned in the Torah, it is referring to the stalls our forefather Yaakov built for his animals. Why? Because when Yaakov arrived in Shechem with his family, he built a beis medrash for himself for Torah learning, but for his animals, his “wealth,” he built simple huts.

Yaakov took his children to the window and said, “Look at how I treat my wealth, dear children. Wealth is temporary; like the sukkah, it doesn’t go with you to the next world. But here in this house of Torah, we accumulate the mitzvahs that stay with us – which are eternal.”

We have now received our “new heads” for the coming year, as implied by the words Rosh Hashanah, head for the year, and Yom Hazikaron, a day of resetting our memory apparatus. We are cleansed of our sins on Yom Kippur, after which we enter, with our entire body, into our sukkah. We enter this mitzvah where we achieve oneness with our Lover – Hashem, Blessed be He.

What is it about the Nation of Israel that attracts the love of the One God Who rules the universe?

I came upon an answer on Rosh Chodesh Elul as I prayed the silent benedictions. We bless the day in the following way: “Mikadesh Yisrael v’roshei chodoshim – He sanctifies Israel and the first day of all months.” But it can literally mean “He sanctifies Yisrael and “brand new heads.”

Our nation is forever ready to admit our mistakes and begin all over. With the coming of each new moon, we are aware that we may start afresh.

This is also evident in our morning declaration of Modeh Ani, the origin of which is in the book of Eichah (3:23) which states, “Hashems kindness is new every morning – great is Your belief [in us, to improve in the coming day]. One of the reasons Hashem loves His people is that they are always willing to start over.

Two small examples that are actually big were related to me by Rabbi Mordechai Goldstein, shlita, head of the Diaspora Yeshiva on Mount Zion in Jerusalem, where I am currently studying.

The first: A man survived hell in a concentration camp only to discover that his entire family had perished – parents, siblings, wife and children. Everyone.

Dov Shurin

He Murdered his Daughter

Thursday, September 12th, 2013

Guest Post by Suzzane Handler

Mental Illness is one of those subjects that is still pretty much taboo to talk about in the Orthodox Jewish community. And that can lead to tragic consequences. No more tragic than what happened in Cheyenne, Wyoming almost 80 years ago.

I think it is high time we start the conversation. I can think of no better time to do so than during the Aseres Yemei Teshuva. The following was sent to me by Catherine Goldberg whose opening words introduce Suzzane Handler. She wrote a book about her Orthodox grandfather – a man who murdered his own daughter.

My name is Catherine Goldberg. I’m a big fan of Emes Ve-Emunah and look forward to learning something new everyday every time you post. It always makes me think. I just wanted to share something I’m working on and I thought your community may be interested in.

I found this book called The Secrets They Kept. (It is) about an Orthodox Jew who murdered his youngest daughter who was schizophrenic instead of having her committed.

I got in touch with the author (whose) name is Suzanne Handler and she’s fabulous. We talked about how there’s a big stigma in the Jewish community that bad stuff like schizophrenia or abuse doesn’t happen to us. We both agreed this is not a safe way to think. There’s a lot of guilt and shame associated it with and when that’s internalized that can be really dangerous.

Secret keeping, especially throughout generations is devastating. (T)his book… says it’s OK to talk about this, and by sharing your story we can begin to move forward.

We also talked about what this has to do with forgiveness and Yom Kippur. Suzanne had to forgive her family for keeping this horrible secret from her. I think once she did forgive her family her quality of life improved significantly.

Maybe Yom Kippur is a good time to talk about this and how it relates to mental illness in the Jewish community.

In hopes of raising awareness, Suzanne sent me a little piece that she wrote about her story. She’s hoping that her story will get people talking.

The reason why I was so drawn to this is because a good friend of mine was schizophrenic and committed suicide during our senior year of college. He was Jewish too and I was really torn between this idea that Jewish law says you can’t mourn a suicide and realizing this kid was sick. We’ve made a lot of progress on how we approach mental illness but not enough. It would be amazing if by spreading Suzanne’s story I could raise awareness and money for schizophrenia research or something.

The following was written by Suzzane Handler:

What would compel a devout Jewish father to take the life of his own child?

On June 28th of this year, The Intermountain Jewish News (IJN) ran a feature article detailing the dramatic events contained in my book, The Secrets They Kept: The True Story of a Mercy Killing That Shocked a Town and Shamed a Family. For your convenience, I have provided the link to that piece below. Chris Leppek, assistant editor of the IJN and the person who wrote the article, has granted permission for his story to be reprinted, with the caveat that his name and that of the paper be appropriately cited. He does so in the hope that thoughtful discussions regarding the stigma of mental illness in our society will follow.

Here is a brief summary of the story: In 1937, in Cheyenne, Wyoming, my maternal grandfather, Sam Levin, shot and killed his 16 year-old daughter. The girl, Sally, had been diagnosed with dementia praecox (mid-century term for schizophrenia) and was to be sent to an insane asylum, presumably for the rest of her life. Declared incurable and a danger to herself and others, Sally begged her father to end her life, as well as his own, in a joint murder/suicide pact. On August 16,th of that year, my grandfather, exhausted and desperate from grief and indecision, finally agreed to Sally’s last wish. The girl died within the hour; my grandfather lived and carried the burden of his shame and sorrow to his grave.

Due to the stigma of mental illness then, as well as now, and the nature of my grandfather’s unimaginable crime, this story remained a secret in our family for over 70 decades. Following years of research and soul searching, I have now, at long last, come to the place where understanding meets forgiveness.

I am humbled that The Secrets They Kept: The True Story of a Mercy Killing That Shocked a Town and Shamed a Family, has sold over 8,000 copies and is currently #1 in Mental Health and #7 in Jewish Interest in the Amazon Virtual Book Store.

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Harry Maryles

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