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May 29, 2016 / 21 Iyar, 5776

Posts Tagged ‘opinion’

It’s My Opinion: Emergencies

Monday, April 25th, 2016

Last week, two girls from the Lubavitch Educational Center’s Bais Chana High School in North Miami went missing at a school-sponsored Shabbaton. The event was held at a resort in Kissimmee, Florida. The young ladies took a Shabbat afternoon stroll. They wound up lost in the woods. Of course, they did not have cell phones. It was, after all, the Sabbath.

The news quickly swept through the South Florida community. Tehillim were recited. Search parties were organized. Hundreds of volunteers gathered to search the area. Hatzolah and Chesed Shel Emes of Miami joined with private individuals and the Osceola County sheriff’s department in an attempt to find the two 16 year olds.

Brocha Katz and Rivka Moshe spent the night huddled together. Baruch Hashem, they were found on Sunday morning. A sheriff’s helicopter spotted the missing pair. They were in the woods, not far from the resort. Despite being covered with scratches and insect bites, the girls were OK.

The yetzer tov, the good inclination, seems to shine during times of crisis.

New Yorkers rose to the occasion in the aftermath of 9/11.The incredible acts of bravery on the part of first responders is legend. Acts of random kindnesses performed by average citizens were rampant. Thousands lined up to donate blood. Petty crimes, like pickpocketing, were at a historic low. American flags were flown from poles and worn as pins on lapels. There was a real sense of unity.

Individuals all around the world tend to rally when faced with a natural catastrophe or a terrorist attack. They forget their petty differences and work together. They establish a sense of camaraderie.

The Jewish people are no exception to acting in this manner. We seem to come together with achdut at time of personal, as well as national, peril. If life is a test, we are not scoring high during the interim.

Baruch Sandhaus, executive director of Hatzolah of Miami-Dade County said, “The Chabad community has an amazingly strong network. I received local calls from all over South Florida from people wanting to volunteer in the search. Concerned response came from across the United States and also from Israel and other countries. The Jewish community’s outreach was truly overwhelming. It showed that others care. We are not alone.”

Hopefully, we can hold on to that feeling and use it in our day-to-day lives. Our ahavat Yisrael, love for each other, should not be reserved for disasters.

Shelley Benveniste

Sexual Choices

Sunday, August 25th, 2013

Sexual depravity, like violence, was the natural state of the pagan world, with temple prostitution and human sacrifice going hand-in-hand. Even in the Bible, some of the greatest of men allowed their sexual urges to make fools and sinners of them. The Israelites, fresh out of Sinai, were seduced by Moabite purveyors of sex. The Mishna states unequivocally that lust is one of three things that can destroy a person.

In spite of all that, in Judaism sex is regarded as something wonderful, positive, and a gift of God. Provided of course one accepts the limitations and disciplines that the Torah teaches are necessary to fully appreciate its sanctity. Indeed according to the majority opinion in Jewish law nothing is forbidden sexually between consenting and permitted partners.

But we live in a world where sex has become a pervasive, trivial release of human urges, no more significant than a sneeze. Sex has always been misused. But in our world we have reached new lows. Women and children are abused sexually in the most barbaric and inconceivable ways. And I am not talking about those parts of the world still suffering from oppressive male religious hypocrisy. Even in the strictest of religions, the tendency to exploit and sexually abuse women has time and again proved to be more powerful than the strongest of taboos. The availability of pornography at the click of a Google search is a blight on civilization. It is the strongest argument for parental control of the internet.

If someone enjoys sadomasochism that is a private affair, and if consenting adults do whatever they feel like that is also a matter of privacy. Similarly, Christians and Muslims are free to try to convert me, and I am free to tell them to get lost. I know I am constantly being bombarded by adverts, overt and subliminal, all trying to manipulate me to buy something. But if I am mature enough I can withstand such pressures religious or profane.

When society seems to be losing its sense of sexual values, it is natural that some, religious or not, want to hold the line somewhere and preserve a comfort zone. All societies go through cycles of permissiveness, followed by repression, followed by relaxation. Often the way they do this is by falling back on standards that they believe once worked (even if they did not, or the circumstances were entirely different).

Many moderns look at Jewish laws that forbid sex during a woman’s period and give her time to recover as both primitive and unrealistic. But tradition can argue that, on the contrary, a voluntary form of abstinence enhances a relationship. Of course sexuality and how one treats it very subjective and personal, and no system works for everyone. But in my opinion, and as I have experienced it, it respects the right of the woman to decide how her body measures its rhythms. It respects her space. Again I stress that my experience tells me that periodic abstinence helps maintain the excitement of intimacy, which in too many relationships becomes mundane, loses its passion, and withers. There is lot to be said in favor of self-discipline.

I should stress that I have no idea if this is why we have these laws, but I do know I can see the benefits, whether intended or not. We live in an era of self-indulgence. The more spoilt you are the less you appreciate physical pleasure. You take it for granted, and the more addicted you are to instant gratification, the more you run the risk of needing constant stimulation. It’s like any addiction.

Traditional communities struggle to maintain values that they believe enhance life while in the world around them they are accused of being old fashioned. In a liberal society we believe in choices and freedoms. But the same rights must be extended to those who make other choices provided of course they do not interfere with others.

Currently a Conservative synagogue in Los Angeles, with a large Persian membership, is the center of a storm over the issue of gay and lesbian marriage. Most of the community embraces the decision of its rabbi to perform religious marriages for same-sex couples. A traditional minority has balked. It wants to adhere to traditional Jewish attitudes which insist that Kiddushin, the religious sanctification of a union, should conform to traditional requirements. You cannot say “According to Law of Moses and Israel” if it is not.

Jeremy Rosen

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